Just recently, I went out with a close friend of mine to one of our favorite veg places and we had the best time gossiping over our love lives while enjoying this warm, comforting vegan stew. I seriously cannot remember feeling so great on a night out with omni friends!
Yet, every vegan journey has its own stages,
and it is inevitable that you will have to manage social outings with non-vegans. This may feel like a struggle at first, or it can even be quite intimidating, especially when you first have to break the news you are now vegan. I have personally realized that it is easier for me to be around omnies when there is a big group of people, but when it comes to one-on-one meetings, I do prefer to keep them for my closest friends, who share my values and beliefs.
No matter where you are on your vegan journey, here are 5 great ways to manage both scenarios!
5 Ways To Enjoy Social Outings And Avoid Disasters As A Vegan
Tell your hosts that you’re vegan in advance: Don’t surprise them with the information
It may seem obvious, but whenever you are invited to dine at someone’s home, you should tell them that you’re vegan. Don’t surprise them with the news that you are vegan; Most likely, they won’t have anything for you to eat and this can make them feel uncomfortable, and end up with you going hungry. Eliminate the awkwardness of this situation by being upfront.
Even better, offer to bring something or suggest some simple ideas if they’re open to cooking vegan. Most people assume that vegan food is elusive and hard to prepare. You can help debunk this myth by recommending a simple yet scrumptious vegan meal. If you’re going somewhere on short notice, bring a little something along. Again, just mention to your host that you’re vegan and that you’ll be bringing a dish so they don’t have to worry about preparing anything.
When it comes to dining out, speak up! If you are eating out with a group of friends or colleagues suggest some places you know have vegan options – or better yet, if they are open minded, ask if they’d be interested in trying your favorite vegan place. Indian, Thai, Japanese, Italian, Mexican, and Ethiopian restaurants almost always have vegan options. Dazzle them with some fine vegan cuisine, demonstrating that we do in fact eat more than tofu and leaves.
“Would you mind if I ordered steak?”
“Do you mind if I order a steak?” If the answer is yes you might want to say so…
In any circumstance, it is good to know your comfort level and communicate it when it comes to eating with omnivores. Again, it’s all about honesty and openness here.
If you’re out with someone and they ask if it would bother you if they ordered the steak, if the answer is yes, say so! Better to have told the truth than have to pretend to be enjoying your meal as your dining companion gnaws on a bloody cow carcass. Sure, your upfront-ness may put some people off, but it’s always empowering to stay true to yourself.
Are you comfortable at BBQ’s where there’s meat being grilled? It’s extremely important to be true to yourself on these issues and make your choices from there. For example, I don’t mind dining with a big group of people who order meat at a restaurant, but a situation where cooking and eating meat is the central purpose of the gathering (like a house party where everyone gets involved in the meat prep and cooking), I would simply not go. Ultimately, it is only up to you whether you want to go to a party or event where there’s meat involved.
Should you decide to brave the omnivorous party, make sure you’re mentally prepared:omnivores in their natural habitat are inclined to question and tease those whose eating habits are different or threatening to them. This is most true when it comes to family.
When being teased, keep in mind Gandhi’s insightful words around conflict: “First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, and then you win.” Though sometimes irritating, this mocking indicates a process of acceptance, so you’re almost halfway there(!) Don’t take the teasing personally, instead take it as an opportunity to share and impart some of the awesome wisdom you’ve gained as a result of going vegan.
Through being informed and having the ability to convey what we know to be true in a calm yet commanding manner, we lead by example and people will be more inclined to take in our message.
Remember to enjoy yourself!
When all is said and done, socializing is meant to be a pleasant experience. With proper preparation and precautions, mingling outside of our vegan circle can be just that.
Have compassion for those who have not yet opened their own hearts to the idea of veganism and don’t be too hard on people who disagree with you. We don’t want to be the ones starting arguments all the time.
Through veganism we are truly being the change we want to see in the world. If we pave the way with unwavering compassion towards humans and non-human animals alike, others are bound to follow.
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